Sunday, December 16, 2012

I have been busy this past year and have not posted many entries on this blog because I have been blessed with many Loving interactions with a wide variety of people.  None of these Loving interactions have made it to the television or radio news.  None of them were violent enough, selfish enough, hurtful enough or resulted in devastation,  loss,  rape, violence or death which would qualify it for television or radio news.

I have been telling people for decades to turn off the so called television and radio "news".  This is not the news.  It is a collection of the worst of the worst tragedies, traumas and natural disasters from around the world.  These items and events are selected to play to the lowest common denominator, and sensationalism for the sole purpose of achieving the highest possible ratings.

I have told people  that there is a reason that our eyes can only see so far and our ears can only hear from so far away.  The reason is that there is only so much we can do and respond to in our environment before we become overwhelmed.  If you watch the television or listen to the radio "news", and you try to maintain your human sensibilities and  compassion, you will quickly either become depressed and overwhelmed, or numbed-out and shut-down.

On the other hand if you were made aware only of ALL the events in your local neighborhood - the good, the neutral and the tragic, you would either be exhilarated from the Love that is expressed, or be motivated to step in and act where there is a need for helping hands, love, prayers or financial or emotional support.  In this way your  life would have balance and you would be energized and replenished by the Loving give and take between you and your local neighbors.

If we watch the "news" as it is presented on television or radio, we will come  to believe that our  world is overflowing with human violence, greed, and natural disasters.  If all that was happening in our world is what is seen and heard on our "news" channels, this world would have ground to a halt many years ago.  The reason it hasn't ground to a halt is that the good that exists and is perpetrated by the humans on this planet,  far,  far outweighs the bad.  Each time someone is hurt on this planet AND another human being, (who is in touch with their true source as the nature of Love), becomes aware of it, there is an outpouring of support, Love, money and resources which goes beyond words in a heartbeat.  The difficulty is that these Loving responses to the negatives in our lives are rarely reported in "the news".

So please choose to look for the helpers.  Choose to watch the negative response within  yourself and learn to use tools to dismantle your, sadness, fear, anger and resentment so that the Love you are made of is the prominent energy you resonate in each moment.

Recently there was yet another incident in which a person who was in so much pain, (either conscious or unconscious), that they chose to act out violently against others.  Lives were lost and lives were changed.  Immediately the airwaves were filled with words and pictures which focused on the violence, the confusion and helplessness that many chose to feel in response to this "news".  ALSO - IMMEDIATELY! there were hundreds of thousands of human beings who were moved to pray, send Love and begin asking "How can I help?  How can I make a positive impact on this situation and the lives of those around me."

Let's slow that down and look at it with a different perspective.  One person in pain does something to hurt others and hundreds of thousands, if not millions of people respond with Love, prayer and supportive positive action.  We can choose which of these we choose to focus upon.

If you have read some of the other entries in this blog, you know that there are tools available for anyone who chooses to take responsibility for whatever they are feeling.  These tools make it possible to dismantle and cancel whatever it is that leaves one feeling less than love.  I hope this note motivates some of  you to choose to focus on the Love that responds to tragedy in our world and to use these tools to remove anything which is less than Love from your mind and body, so that the Love you are made of can resonate more strongly in  the world.

We Come From Love, We Are Made of  Love, We Are Love!  Everything Else is False.

Tuesday, February 21, 2012

An Invitation - Five Worksheets Per Day During Lent

Lent is a forty day period during which people traditionally "give up" something as they cleanse themselves, their minds, and their bodies in preparation for Easter.  When I was a child growing up in a Roman Catholic family we "gave up" candy every year during Lent.  For many years the purpose of this eluded me and I thought it was just so that I would really be able to eat a lot of candy on Easter Sunday without getting sick.  Many adults I knew would give up alcohol, or give up drinking alcohol alone, or give up meat, or give up desserts, etc. as a way to remind them of the coming holiday and its religious or spiritual importance.

Now I am an adult and for the last eight years or so I have been doing the Reality Management Worksheet to "dismantle" and "cancel" realities in my mind that leave me feeling less than Love.  Today I was asked to join a growing number of people who have made the commitment to complete five worksheets each day for  the next forty days during Lent.  I gladly accepted the challenge and I see it as an infinitely more useful and reverent process than the "giving up" of candy which I so reluctantly mastered as a child.

This process of doing five worksheets per day for forty days offers me the opportunity to drop anger, fear, sadness and confusion producing realities which I have carried around with me for decades, and which drive my behaviors and reactions without me knowing it.  The Reality Management Worksheet is a powerful self-help tool which can be used by anyone and is available free from .

This powerful tool is based on work that synthesizes known principles from science, psychology, theology and the ancient Aramaic work from over two thousand years ago.  This process is so easy that anyone who can read, can apply this tool to any difficult situation in their life and end up feeling more calm, relaxed and Loving.

I will gladly answer any questions you may have about this process and its benefits and I invite you to join a Loving and committed group of people who will also be completing five worksheets per day for the next forty days.  For additional support you can listen to the Internet show run by Dr. Michael Ryce five days a week on Blog Talk Radio from noon to 1:00 PM Central Time, for answers to questions and support for how to use the Reality Management Worksheet to improve your experience of life. More innformation about the show can be found at

We Come From Love, We Are Made Of Love, We Are Love.  Everything Else Is False!

Monday, January 30, 2012

Dr. Hayes is Teaching EFT at Relax 4 Life In Barrington, IL

I will be teaching a class on EFT The Emotional Freedom Technique on February 25,  2012 from 9:00 AM - 4:00 PM at Relax 4 Life in Barrington, IL.  This class will teach you a powerful technique for giving yourself an acupressure treatment for anything that bothers you either physically, mentally or emotionally.  This powerful technique empowers individuals to activate and strengthen their immune system and emotional energy system, by "tapping" into the acupuncture meridians and allowing the natural  healing response to proceed without blockages.

This class is suitable for professionals and non-professionals alike.  All that is needed is a willingness to learn and apply some new concepts to some  old problems and patterns.  Many past participants have been therapists, (ranging from social workers to massage and occupational therapists), and many have been individuals who want to learn the technique for use on themselves annd their family members.

Relax 4 Life in Barrington,  IL is a wonderful place to relax,  and  learn in a beautiful facility run by caring professionals who offer a wide range of programs and classes.  Check out their website for more details.  or go directly to the page to find out more about this class

There is limited space so don't delay, sign up today.

Wednesday, October 26, 2011

Mindshifters Group - Empowered to Heal

Last night the Mindshifters group in Crystal Lake watched the second half of the lecture, "Empowered to Heal" by Dr. Michael Ryce.  This lecture looks at how we create not only our emotional experience of life moment to moment, but also our physical dis-ease.  The lecture discusses a collection of ancient wisdom and modern science which describes the process of denying and suppressing "negative" or disintegrative Mind energy, which eventually causes physical pain and cellular decomposition.  This was a particularly timely presentation as several of the people who attended the group last week had mentioned issues with aches, pain, or discomfort of some sort.  Then on Monday the Mindshifters Internet show featured a discussion of the role of emotional upset in physcial pain, especially back pain.  The work of Dr. John Sarno,, was discussed as well as some personal stories of people who have learned that different specific physical pains are related to mental and emotional energies they have yet to deal with.

"Mindbody medicine pioneer, Dr. John E. Sarno, is Professor of Rehabilitation Medicine at New York University School of Medicine and attending physician at the Rusk Institute of Rehabilitation Medicine, New York University Medical Center.

Since 1973, Dr. Sarno has conducted research and clinical practice on disorders relating to musculoskeletal pain. Through his ground-breaking experience, Dr. Sarno has identified the cause of most common back, neck, shoulder and limb pain, and has developed a revolutionary Mindbody treatment program which has helped many to become free from chronic pain."

I have had numerous personal experiences and worked with many patients in my clinical psychology practice who have experienced the quick and sometimes total relief of pain which results when the trapped emotional energy which is behind the pain is released or dismantled.  I have personally had the experience of intense hip pain, which was making it nearly impossible for me to walk, be resolved immediately when I used a Mind/Body energy technique which identified the emotion I was holding and released it.

The Mindshifters Radio internet show about this topic from Monday is available at the following web page.  It is  the October 24, 2011 show:
And you can listen to the show each weekday from 12:00 Noon to 1:00 PM Central Time by calling
1-646-200-4169 or logging on to

Once again, this is a free resource - like so much of the work done by Dr. Michael Ryce and his wife Jeanie - offered to make these tools available to anyone who needs them.

The power of the reality management worksheet to dismantle and remove painful "realities" from one's mind is truly a wonder to behold.  Try it for yourself.  Download the worksheet and use it to dismantle and cancel any "reality" or belief you hold which is related to any uncomfortable mental, emotional, or physical experience you are having.

I would love to hear about your experiences.

We come from Love, we are made of Love, we are Love.  Everything else is false.

Monday, October 10, 2011

An Aramaic Definition of Forgiveness

This coming Sunday, October 16th, 20011, I will be giving the sermon at the Unity Church in Crystal Lake, IL.  Then following the service, I will be giving a two and a half hour workshop titled, "Why Is This Happening To Me Again?".  The workshop will not require a fee, but a suggested donation of $12 will be accepted for those who are able to pay.  There will be pot luck at the church between the service and the workshop.  For details you may visit the UCCL website at

The talk during  the service will introduce the concept of the difference between the ancient Aramaic definition of forgiveness and the modern concept of "pardoning" someone who has "wronged" you.  Then during the workshop, we will explore and question how the processes of anger, fear, and blame drive many of our human interactions and what we can do about it. 

I will present a tool as offered by Dr. Michael Ryce for cancelling and removing any thoughts and beliefs which result in negative emotions within the human mind/body system.  This time-tested tool is available for free from Dr. Ryce's website.  Please feel free to visit this site if you are not able to attend the workshop.  Simply visit and download the first four links on that page.  These include an explanation of the tool, with step by step instructions, the seven step worksheet itself, and two hour-long audio files of Dr. Ryce's internet show in which he works with two different callers to complete the worksheet process.

This tool has the potential to change your life.  I say potential because it only works if you pick it up and use it.

We come from Love, we are made of Love, we are Love.  Everything else is false.